Terry Cato

About Terry Cato

Terry Cato is a Talk Show Host, Author and relationship blogger. She is the Founder of Relationships 411, a blog community dedicated to healthy relationships and marriages. She is the Host of Real Talk w/Terry a Bay Area talk show focusing on relationship and lifestyle topics. Her memoir, “No Longer a Bridesmaid!” chronicles the 7 years she was single, celibate and believing God for a husband. Feel Free to Follow Terry on Twitter and visit her website for more information about the Author.

A New Body

A New Body

Earlier this week my grandfather passed away. His death was not a complete shock, since his health had been declining for the past few months. These last couple of days have been a whirlwind for me and I don’t know if I’ve fully processed his demise. I am comforted in knowing that as the word […]

Checked at the Door

Checked at the Door

I was raised in the church. My family has a long history of church affiliation, membership, and leadership. My great-grandfather was one of the founders and associate Pastors of my childhood/family church.  The building [a remodeled version] which still stands today, is across the street from my grandmother’s house. I remember my great-grandmother sharing with […]

A Child’s Prayer

A Child’s Prayer

After my daughter’s dance class a few nights ago, she hurried out of class and excitedly told me that she had been promoted to pointe in her ballet class.  In the world of ballet, a promotion to pointe level is a major milestone. My daughter has been talking about being on pointe for months now. […]

In All Your Getting – Get an Understanding

In All Your Getting – Get an Understanding

The word of God says, “wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom. And with all thy getting get understanding.” (Proverbs 4:7 KJV). The day after the recent Presidential election, I was in a meeting where we were encouraged to share our feelings, thoughts and reflections about the election results. I did not feel led […]

The LORD is My Shepherd

The LORD is My Shepherd

I recently had the opportunity to share a devotion about one of my favorite bible verses. For me, when I’m asked to pick a favorite bible verse this can be challenging because I have many. For the devotion, I chose Psalm 23:1, “The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want”. (NKJV). I also like […]

I’m Taking a Social Media Diet

I’m Taking a Social Media Diet

For the past several weeks, I’ve elected to step away from social media and the local news because of all the negative and tragic events that have flooded media outlets. There was a point in time if there was a major disaster, current event or tragedy I would be glued to the news reports taking […]

A Message for Those of Us Who Are Seasoned

A Message for Those of Us Who Are Seasoned

Titus 2:3-5 A few weeks ago, I was in the shower and a random thought came from out of no-where, or so it seems. Stay with me, I’m going somewhere, I promise. I was reminded of an encounter several years ago that I had at a youth camp where I was a camp counselor. At […]

What Would You Do?

What Would You Do?

Oftentimes when I hear about a tragedy and learn intricate details of things that happened just prior to and right after the tragedy, everyone involved and how they acted or failed to act, I often ask myself what would you have done in that situation? Most of us have heard of tragedies taking place and […]

Write the Vision And Make it Plain

Write the Vision And Make it Plain

The other day, I saw a vision and affirmation sheet written by renown author Octavia Butler on a friend’s Facebook page. The Author started her affirmation by stating “I shall be a bestselling writer.” She continued her affirmations saying that her books will be best sellers whether the publishers push them or not and that […]

Tis the Season to be Jolly

Tis the Season to be Jolly

Tis the season to be jolly. This is the season for sharing and caring. With all of the recent news of mass shootings and other tragedies it is hard to get into the festive mood of the Christmas season. I personally have made a choice to limit my TV and social media time as not […]

Why Do Bad Things Happen to Good People?!

Why Do Bad Things Happen to Good People?!

A few months ago I had the privilege of speaking to a group of high school girls. The theme of my topic was “You are the Salt of the Earth” and I spoke from the stance of young ladies remaining pure and celibate prior to marriage; encouraging them to make a commitment to not have […]

Tea Anyone?

Tea Anyone?

A few weeks ago I had the pleasure of attending a ladies tea honoring victims, or should I say survivors of domestic violence. I initially thought that this would simply be a foofoo dainty event where a bunch of women would be all gussied up eating tea sandwiches and sipping tea. I was in for […]

Yearning to Be a Daddy’s Little Girl

Yearning to Be a Daddy’s Little Girl

As we approach Father’s Day, this is the time of year when I sometimes become reflective of the fact that I did not have a relationship with my biological father as I was growing up. When I was approximately 3-4 years old, my parents separated. The last memory, I had of my father in the […]

Happy Birthday to Me!

Happy Birthday to Me!

I recently celebrated my birthday. This year in particular was both reflective and cathartic for me because my mother passed away at the tender age of 42; she never made it to her 43rd birthday. Over the course of the past year, as I inched closer and closer to 43, I kept reminding myself that […]

That’s Christianity for You!

That’s Christianity for You!

“That’s Christianity for You!” These were the words that someone posted in response to a Facebook post that I had on one of my fan pages about a mother who was denied a funeral at a Denver church because she was gay or had an “alternative lifestyle”. My response, “a sad truth … just way […]

Keep the Christ in Christmas

Keep the Christ in Christmas

“Tis the season to be jolly!” “Jesus is the reason for the season.” “Keep the Christ in Christmas.” Are these mere clichés?! Christmas has become so commercialized that many –including Christians – forget that we are really celebrating the birth of Jesus Christ. Now that we are in the Advent season, may I gently remind […]

Pray!

Pray!

I recently went Facebook dark, because there was so much sad and depressing news coming across my timeline. I have since started back intermittently checking my account but severely censoring what I read and the amount of time I spend browsing Facebook. After limiting my Facebook time, I think I somehow started watching more of […]

Forgiving the Unforgivable

Forgiving the Unforgivable

As Christians, we are called to forgive those who trespass against us; if we do not forgive others, our Father will not forgive us our sins (Matthew 6:15, NIV). In the Amplified Bible Version, the scripture says, “For if you forgive people their trespasses [their reckless and willful sins, leaving them, letting them go, and […]