It’s Ok To Cry
“Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of His saints.” (Psalm 116:15 NKJV).
The bite is missing from the morbid scenario of death when you are distanced from its finality.
Death is projected across the airwaves in movies, television, and the internet. More than ever before visions of the extermination of life are seen until the human mind becomes desensitized to the reality. Then the darkness happens and the violent shock rocks your world.
Saying good-bye is hard
When I received the phone call three years ago on a February afternoon from my brother telling me my dad had died, my mind couldn’t process it. I had talked to Dad the day before. He and Mom had gone to church that morning; he wasn’t supposed to be gone yet.
A few years before Dad left the earth, my husband’s mother died. Her loss was the first parent we had to say good-bye to. Losing close family members is one of the hardest things we will ever go through on this earth. This year alone we have already experienced three more funerals and any day now we know we will be saying good-bye to my father-in-law.
Jesus is the resurrection
In Luke 7:11-14 Jesus meets a funeral procession. A widow had lost her only son and was grieving. Jesus tells the mother not to weep and raised the son to life.
Jesus wept (John 11:35). The Son of God felt the pain of Mary and Martha at the loss of their brother. Even though He raised Lazarus and the widow’s son from the dead, Jesus still felt the grief of loss the families felt.
Death came because of sin (Romans 5:12), but Jesus conquered the power of death by His resurrection. “Where, O death, is your victory? Where, O death, is your sting? The sting of death is sin, and the power of sin is the law. But thanks be to God! He gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ (1 Corinthians 15:55-57 NKJV).
Death is a transition from a life held bound by the physical to a glorified, spiritual body that can do anything. We rejoice knowing our loved one is no longer held by the chains of this earthly life. But we still have to cope with the void left behind by their absence. It’s a ripping away of the soul because we have ties with those we love. It hurts. We know they are happy, but we grieve for ourselves because it’s painful to be without them. They are gone, but death leaves a shadow.
But in the pain we can have peace. While I allow myself to grieve, I will not wallow in mourning. I allow myself the memories, but not the despair of regret.
Remembering the joy that is before the loved one who has departed from this earth will bring us comfort if we will dwell on that fact instead of our loss. The separation is only temporary. God knows our pain and He says it’s ok to cry. Just don’t forget that he will one day wipe away our tears.