Now that the kids are grown they laugh at my equal opportunity style of parenting. “Mom, do you really think we’d be jealous if you spent more on one kid than the other?”
I remember the Fruit Loops Fiasco.
“Mrs. Rondeau, call on line three,” came over the loud speaker. I left my meeting to answer the phone. Not that the meeting was that critical, no life or death decisions for me to make. However, as a department head, the meeting would be stalled until I returned.
“Mom, there’s only a few fruit loops left in the cereal box and John won’t share.”
“You called me at work because of Fruit Loops?”
My anger could be heard throughout the office wing of the facility. My boss leaned against my door, his amusement obvious.
“You wait,” I told him. “Someday you’ll have kids and you’ll remember!”
At the time, mine were teenagers, still lacking in problem solving skills like how to share the last helping of Fruit Loops. Maybe there is truth in the belief that birth order is a source of sibling conflict. John, the oldest, felt more deserving. Jim, the youngest felt the baby of the family should receive leniency. Edie, well, Edie just thought she deserved them for acing her algebra test.
If I’d been home, I’d have solved the argument readily with my if-you-can’t-learn-to-share-nobody-gets it routine. But before I could talk out a temporary solution, I heard the swishing sound of Fruit Loops leaving the box and spreading softly onto the linoleum. “I’ll be home in an hour and there had better not be any Fruit Loops on the floor when I do.”
As God’s children, how much do we resemble squabbling adolescents? We measure our spiritual worth by what we feel God should give us. We’ve served the Lord faithfully for years. Aren’t we more deserving of blessing than the one newly to the altar?
We envy Patty the Pianist, Sally the Singer, and Jeffrey the Jokester. We fail to realize that the father blesses as He deems best. Since we know he withholds no good thing from His child, what He withholds is also for our benefit.
Why is that so hard to understand?
If life we’re fair, we’d all have balding heads. If life were fair, we’d all wear a size eight. Just as we are created with different body types and varying degrees of hair thickness, so our God shapes and foliates our spiritual life for His Glory.
Praise the LORD, O my soul; all my inmost being, praise his holy name. Praise the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits—who forgives all your sins and heals all your diseases, who redeems your life from the pit and crowns you with love and compassion, who satisfies your desires with good things so that your youth is renewed like the eagle’s (Psalm 103:1 – 5).