Setting Goals for Your Relationships

Setting Goals for Your Relationships

Happy 2016! This is the time of year when many set career goals, health goals, or financial goals. These are good to have, but we often neglect to set goals for our close relationships, our spouse, our children, our friends. In addition to our relationship with God, solid relationships are the foundation to a happy life.

I once listened to a sermon where the pastor advised his congregation to set goals and schedule in time to work on them. This pastor had been setting goals and writing a weekly schedule to work on his goals for over thirty years. When he became a father, he had said one of his long term goals was to have a friendship with his children. While they were young, he scheduled one-on-one time with them. His said it was an enormous investment given the competing demands on his time, but it paid off. He has a friendship with his adult children.

That sermon came to mind for me recently when I thought about the kind of relationship I want to have with my children, spouse and my friends. Scheduling in that one-on-one time with those I love should be an important part of how I spend my day.

Here are some questions to help you set some relationship goals for 2016:

Your Marriage Goals

  • How would you describe the current state of your marriage?
  • How many dates have you gone on in the past year? How many would you like to go on?
  • What are some ways you could improve communication with your spouse?

Your Parenting Goals

  • What’s your current discipline style? How could you improve it?
  • Do you have clear boundaries with your children?
  • What could you do to spend more quality and more quantity time with your children?
  • What could you do on a regular basis to show your child that they are loved?

Your Friendship Goals

  • Do you like your friends? Do your friendships edify you or drain you?
  • Are there any fun things you’d like to do with your friends in 2016?
  • How much time do you spend with your friends? How often do you talk to them?
  • What could you do to be a better friend?

There you have it, some questions to ask regarding your relationships.

What questions would you add to the list?

Preslaysa Williams About Preslaysa Williams

Preslaysa Williams is a multi-award winning writer of Contemporary Inspirational Romance. She loves Jesus, writing excessively detailed to-do lists, and being an introvert. When Preslaysa’s not hunched over her manuscripts, she’s homeschooling her two children and avoiding housework. You can visit her online and sign up for her quarterly newsletter to receive even more encouragement for the journey.

Comments

  1. Love this list! My husband and I decided when we had kids, that we would schedule date nights. I believe that is one of the things that kept our marriage strong. Sometimes it’s hard to communicate when you have kids and other obligations taking up your time. But once the kids are gone, you are back to just you and your spouse. It is important to keep that friendship through the years. I am so thankful we chose to do that.

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    Cherie Burbach

    Cherie Burbach Reply:

    So true. Date nights are important. It helps you stay intentional about your desire to keep your marriage close.

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    Preslaysa Williams

    Preslaysa Williams Reply:

    I agree, Cherie. My husband and I just went on a date night yesterday. It was a great time for us to connect and plan the year 🙂

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    Preslaysa Williams

    Preslaysa Williams Reply:

    Thank you, Sally! I’m glad you enjoyed my post!

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  2. Love your name, Preslaysa! I enjoyed your post and sometimes feel that my husband and I, having been married almost 40 years now, tend to take the relationship for granted.

    We have a son who lives overseas and sometimes we don’t talk to him for days, even weeks at a time, but then we have a marathon catch up with Skype! Our daughter and granddaughter live in the same small town as we do, so we see them often enough without being intrusive!

    If I were going to add anything, I would suggest we ask ourselves if we have done anything over the past year to offend a loved one or friend and do our best to make it right. Conversely, how can we resolve issues with friends/loved ones who may have hurt us in some way?

    Great post! Thanks for sharing!

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    Cherie Burbach

    Cherie Burbach Reply:

    I’ll second that! I’ll love her name, too. Beautiful.

    That’s excellent advice, Patti, about making amends with loved ones.

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    Preslaysa Williams

    Preslaysa Williams Reply:

    Thanks, Cherie!

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    Preslaysa Williams

    Preslaysa Williams Reply:

    Truth, Patti. Offense is a snare that the enemy uses to keep us from advancing into God’s best for our lives. I like what one pastor said: “A dead man can’t be offended. If you’re dead to self and alive in Christ, offense can’t touch you.” Happy New Year!

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