When Did Homemaker Become a Bad Label?

When Did Homemaker Become a Bad Label?

The label, homemaker, tends to bring to mind Beaver’s mom from the old TV show, Leave It To Beaver. I’ve been a stay at home mom before, and believe me, I never looked like her. But, then again, I was never looked upon with quite the respect that Beaver’s mom seemed to have.

When I quit the world of employment and came home, many people criticized me. I was asked why I would waste my education, especially since I had a Masters degree. I was also made to feel guilty because I no longer brought home money to help my husband support our family.

I quickly gained answers for both arguments. First, I never wasted any of my education. I homeschooled our daughter and needed every brain cell I had gained. Second, God blessed us at this time because we had just moved into an area with a much lower cost of living than the one we had lived in before. Plus, no amount of money could replace the calling to educate our daughter at home.

I have come to realize that we moms are all called to be homemakers and homekeepers. Some of us have the opportunity to do this full time and others must do it while juggling a needed income-earning job.

The dictionary defines homemaker as one who manages a household. I must argue that a homemaker is much more than that. Make carries these meanings: bring about, cause, create, effect, generate, assemble, construct, build, and to cause to exist, occur, or appear. Keep means to take care of, guard, and maintain. Keeper means one who cares for another or another’s property.

Really marinate these definitions with being a Christian homemaker  and homekeeper. God has blessed us with family to care for as well as the place we find shelter. But it’s all on loan from God. He entrusts us with our family and our home. This implies much more than the dictionary definition of homemaker. We are called to create a Christian home by building a foundation of faith in our family and generating God’s love in all we do. We are to guard our homes from Satan’s influence by calling on God in prayer. And we maintain this godly atmosphere through communing with God through His Word.

There’s so much more we could take just from the defining words above to characterize the Christian homemaker and homekeeper. Please, let this be an encouragement to you. Making and keeping our homes is the most important and yet difficult job you’ll ever do. But the reward is establishing a godly foundation and legacy for your loved ones to hold to. Making and keeping a godly home means they’ll always know a place they are loved and cared for, and they’ll have learned that your love and care is based on God’s love and care, which is never-ending.

So, go ahead, call me a homemaker. I’ll bow my head and pray that God will make me a faithful one who will hear well done.

Proverbs 31:29-31 “‘Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.’ Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Give her the reward she has earned, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.”

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Paula Mowery About Paula Mowery

Paula is a pastor’s wife, mom to a college student, author, acquiring editor, and speaker. No matter the hat she wears, she strives to honor God’s plan even if it means going out on a limb and leaving comfort zones. Reviewers have characterized her writing as “thundering with emotion.” Her book, Be The Blessing, won the 2014 Selah Award in the novella category. You can follow Paula on Facebook and learn more about her at her blog.

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  1. I think this labeling thing is really something terrible we women do to each other. I have many friends who complain of the opposite, that they are working and get criticized that they aren’t home and homemakers. We always need to make the right choice for our family and allow others to do the same without shaming or guilt.

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  2. Cherie, you’re right. We shouldn’t do this to each other, but it does happen. The worst thing for me has been that I let other’s opinions bother me. I’ve gotten better. And having had others shame and guilt me has made me more aware of not doing that to others.

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    Cherie Burbach

    Cherie Burbach Reply:

    It’s hard not to let it get to you. I do the same. Like you, I’m better at it, too, but it’s never easy, is it? I wish we could “shake it off” easily (as Taylor Swift would say) but so often we hear these criticisms from people we like and respect. Hard to let it go but bottom line we do what’s right for our families and in the end that’s all that’s important. I know you’re doing what’s right for yours!

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  3. I still have moments when I struggle with the fact that I chose to quit the workforce and stay home with my children. I believe it was the best investment I could make, but it can be so wearying to fight the weight of society’s perceptions that I am “only” a homemaker. We need to do all we can to encourage each other! Thanks for your thoughts.

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  4. Paula, this is the most important ‘job’ you have done or will do. Feel good. I came from an era where this was not as questioned and my staying home 13 years after college graduation was ‘normal.’ I have never been sorry.

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  5. So many young “homemakers” need to hear this validation, Paula. I was blessed to stay home with my kids for 30 years, but I felt pulled in so many directions at the time, listening to so many conflicting voices: I should be working (as if I wasn’t!)/I should be 100% fulfilled by motherhood. I loved being home, yet a part of me felt stifled. As a “good” Christian woman, I tried to ignore that part. I wish I hadn’t. If I hadn’t felt pressured by some well-meaning Christian leaders, I might have started my writing career much earlier and been able to balance the joy of motherhood and homemaking with pursuing other dreams. Today I see my four daughters-in-law beautifully balancing work-at-home part-time careers while being fully present for their families. I confess a bit of envy.

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  6. Lisa, I quit the workforce completely for 12 years to homeschool my daughter. I would do it all over again. So worth it! And worth enduring any negative comments. Now I’m just part-time in the workforce – gotta pay for that college tuition somehow. LOL

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  7. Jude, nope, I’ve not been sorry for those 12 years of homeschooling my daughter. I’m so glad I gave her a Christian foundation.

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  8. Becky, when my daughter needed to take on more responsibility with her learning, I started writing. This kept me from hovering over her but allowed God to lead me into a new season and a new ministry. As I saw publication, my daughter became one of my biggest supporters. She respected me for following the dream God had planted in my heart.
    Becky, don’t be discouraged. God can work in any season of our lives He wants. And don’t underestimate your encouragement of your daughter-in-laws.

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  9. I wouldn’t trade my years as a homemaker for anything. I got to influence my daughters for Jesus everyday. I went to work when my youngest started kindergarten. I finished my college degree when that same daughter went to college. I was also fortunate to work on their school schedule for many years. I pray more moms embrace being a homemaker. It’s an awesome job!

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  10. I’ve come to the realization that I’m a homemaker no matter what. God has called me to create a home with Him in it and where He is honored. This is the important part. No matter if you are required to work outside the home or not, make your home a Christian home. I feel a burden to tell this to the mommies now. If you don’t show them Jesus. someone else will show them something else. I pray for you fellow homemakers – may God find us faithful to the task only accomplished through Him!

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  11. Kristin Bunting Kristin Bunting says:

    Beautifully said, my fellow homemaker/homeschoolin’ mama. A few years ago, my neighbor (at that time), a woman who had a PhD in Psychology, actually told me she thought our family was “the Leave it To Beaver family.” But she went on to explain what was good about that. She wasn’t used to moms being home with their children, but she saw the good of it. She was opposed to homeschooling…til she met us and our three girls. She was amazed that our children played outside. All in all, we formed a great friendship in our 5 years as neighbors and hopefully, left an aroma of Jesus with her.

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