Last month I discussed behaviors to watch for as we seek God and wait patiently on our ‘soulmate.’
We can’t start looking for a mate or expecting a mate to find us until God is through molding and transforming us into His image.
Then, if we should meet a person totally sold out to Father, Son, and Holy Ghost; is married to Christ, as we will be; Jesus is the center and control of his life; he may be the godly mate that God created just for us.
Below are a few nuggets of wisdom:
One – Don’t be impressed by what he/she says but how they live; a tree is known by the fruit it bears – watch what type of fruit is being produced in their lives. “Watch out for false prophets. They come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ferocious wolves. 16 By their fruit you will recognize them. Do people pick grapes from thornbushes, or figs from thistles? 17 Likewise, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. 18 A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, and a bad tree cannot bear good fruit.” Matthew 7: 15- 18 (NIV)
Two – Don’t date for the sake of dating, know what you want out of the relationship and discuss it with him/her –let him/her know that you don’t date just to have companionship but is expecting it to lead to marriage.
Three – Once you both understand what each wants, don’t spend exorbitant time alone with him/her, especially at night. It seems that the lustful spirits come out at night.
Four – Try to plan dates where there will be lots of other people around.
Five – Don’t let him/her touch you too often. Holding hands may be safe, but depending on the physical feelings that are aroused, you may need to even avoid holding hands. Remember that holding hands can lead to touching, touching leads to caressing, caressing to fondling, and fondling to fornication.
Proverbs 4:23: “Keep vigilant watch over your heart; that’s where life starts.” (MSG)