It starts with those two simple words and suddenly you’re worlds away.
I wish I looked like that.
I wish my hair was that color.
I wish I was that thin.
I wish I had those clothes.
I wish he was my boyfriend.
I found myself scrolling through Facebook and passing an ad (oh those annoying advertisements) and thinking, “I wish I was as thin as that model.” Then I stopped. Out of all of the things I could have wished for, that was what I wanted? To be thin? To be “beautiful”? I had to stop and shake my head in despair that my heart was so unfocused on God and so focused on me.
As I sat back and started to assess what was going on, my mind took the path to King Soloman. Yeah, that guy with 700+ wives and who knows how many concubines. Well, he had his ‘good’ moments too and one of them was when he was asked by God what he desired and, rather than saying wealth, fame, or charm, he chose wisdom.
And then there was me…wishing for “thin-ness”.
I’m under no assumptions that you (if you are a woman of any age, weigh, height, or ethnicity) have not wished for something regarding your physical being. I have known women of all types who, no matter how many people could point out beautiful things about them, could then point out ten other things that were wrong with them. Even the most confident of women struggle with self-image.
I don’t want this post to be one of those that bashes Photoshop or the media or actresses or men. Sure, there could be cases made against each of those things, but instead I’d like to get to the heart of the matter.
You and God.
Really, that’s all there is. I hear you trying to argue with me but it wont work. The only One who matters in this discussion of your true beauty is how your heavenly Father views you. Sure, that doesn’t always make it easy when you’re hoping that attractive man would notice you or you wish you could lose weight, but I do know for a fact that He is the only One who can change your image of yourself.
You’ve probably heard the popular verses on women’s self image:
Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. Proverbs 31:30
Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear—but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.
1 Peter 3:3
These verses are used often and are a great reminder to women that our outward beauty isn’t what’s important. In the midst of a media saturated world that tells us exactly how we should look, they help us to remember that these imposed ideas aren’t from God but from mankind.
But, in addition to this, I want to draw our hearts to an even more intimate portion of scripture.
O LORD, you have searched me and known me!…You hem me in, behind and before, and lay your hand upon me… For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made… My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed substance; in your book were written, every one of them, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there was none of them.
Psalm 139: 1,5,13-16
Ladies, hear my heart on this. God formed you. God. The Heavenly Creator, the maker of the Heavens and the Earth, the same God who drew Ruth to Boaz and the same God who was with Queen Esther when she went to see the King. The same God who sent His beloved Son to Earth to be scorned, mocked, and murdered. The same God who raised Christ from the dead to fulfill his promise to us – to make a way for us to come to Him.
That very same God created you just as you are. He didn’t make you hoping that you’d cut your hair a certain way or attract a certain type of man. He didn’t create you to be prideful of you image. He created you for His good purpose. To image Him. To show His love. To have His focus.
I’d encourage you ladies to take some time this week to ask yourself how you view you. What do you see when you look in he mirror? What do you wish you saw?
Does what you see match up with how God sees you? Does what you want to see line up with His desire for His daughters? If not, ask Him to help shape your desires. Ask Him to show you who He wants you to be.
It’s only in Him that you can be truly satisfied with YOU!
Cover Photo from Flickr – Jen Collins